"Doesn't give a
cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all recovery plan, but rather suggests several 'paths to
exercises to help you 'emotionally leave home.' This is self-help at its
describing threads common to many extreme parenting styles
. . .
and to the way children
subjected to them feel once they've grown up."
Dallas Morning News,
Dallas TX, Nov. 1, 1998
plan...[to] deprogram [yourself]...from the ingrained and harmful habits taught by
unhealthy guardians....Neuharth relays methods to change habitual feelings of low
self-esteem, distrust, or even a willingness to be victimized."
Los Angeles Times, Los
Angeles CA, Nov. 2, 1998
unambiguous....can help adults heal the wounds of the past, or at least reach a higher
Florida TODAY, Cocoa FL,
Sept. 16, 1998
"Explains how to make
sure that your growing pains with your parents don't develop into grown
New Woman magazine, December 1998
"There is a difference
between healthy parenting and damaging control -- the latter creates self-effacing,
anxious children and adults. Family therapist Dr. Dan Neuharth, himself the product of a
controlling parent, guides those who grew up with unhealthy control to discovery and
insight into just how destructive a parent can be."
Baltimore Sun, Baltimore MD,
Oct. 25, 1998
"Invites readers to
discover where they fall on the spectrum, and encourages them to offset the negative
effects of such parenting through self-examination, self-responsibility and
Marin Independent Journal, Marin County CA, Oct. 12, 1998
"Full of down-to-earth
advice and support for people whose parents might not have been physically or sexually
abusive, but nonetheless limited their children's lives with persistent, unhealthy
Publishers Weekly, Aug.
"The stories of 40 men
and women interviewed draw a numbing picture....Neuharth writes and speaks from
Columbus Dispatch, Columbus OH,
Sept. 23, 1998
"A fresh, compelling and
probing analysis of a lifelong struggle that too few of us confront. Most importantly, the
book leads us to an epiphany: more than endure, we can prevail."
Walter Anderson, author,
"Demystifies much within
our pasts that can hurt our intimate relationships in ways we may not even realize. Even
if you feel guilty, resentful or hopeless about your past and your parents, If You Had
Controlling Parents helps spark understanding and acceptance across the
John Gray, Ph.D., author, Men
Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
"Explains how overcontrolling parents
discourage dissent, stifle strong emotions, criticize more than praise, mete out harsh
discipline, make children earn their love and insist that they're always right."
and Chronicle, Rochester NY, Sept. 16, 1998
"Dan Neuharth's If
You Had Controlling Parents can claim a very respectable spot on the shelf of
self-help books....the book is solid."
USA Today, Sept. 16, 1998
"There's a lot of good
advice in there for people who have had controlling parents."
Oprah Winfrey on Oprah, Oct. 22, 1998
"Potentially a life-changer. Gently written but covers very
important issues. You really get a sense of your own self."
Dr. Pamela Brewer, Host,
DC, Sept. 3, 2004
"I've interviewed a lot
of authors, and this is one of the most important books that has been published in a long
time....I am really impressed with this book."
Carol Arnold, The Carol Arnold Show, KNOR-AM,
Norman OK, Sept. 21, 1998
"It's a terrific
book. When the book arrived at the station, I just inhaled it. I loved it."
Ann Cody, host, Common Ground, WZLX-FM, Boston, Sept. 27, 1998
"If you wonder whether
you were raised by controlling parents, I urge you to get this book. It's a wonderful
co-host, ParenTalk, KVON-AM, Napa CA, Oct. 11, 1998
"Helpful information for
parents and their adult children....An excellent book."
Jimmy Launce, host, The Jimmy Launce Show, WYUR-AM, Detroit, Dec. 14, 1998
Bestseller Rankings Accumulated Since Publication:
#7, UPI Arts and Entertainment Booklist
National Bestseller: #9,
Ingram Books A-List Top 50 requested titles
#11, Amazon.com Hot 100
#1, BarnesandNoble.com "Parent & Adult Child" titles
BarnesandNoble.com "Recovery" titles
BarnesandNoble.com "Parental Overprotection" titles
#3, Amazon.com "Recovery" titles
#2, BarnesandNoble "Adult Children of Dysfunctional Parents"
#2, BarnesandNoble.com "Manipulative Behavior" titles
Online Bestseller: Germany:
Amazon.com.de "Recovery" titles
Online Bestseller: France: #4,
Amazon.com.fr "Recovery" titles
Kindle reader "Parent and Adult Child" titles
Kindle reader "Dysfunctional Relationships" titles
San Francisco Bay Area Bestseller:
#7, Printers Inc. monthly bestseller
"Books For A Better Life" Award
Featured Selection, The
Behavioral Science Book Club
Featured Selection, The
Psychotherapy Book Club
version available in
"Calmly and wisely dissects the dysfunctional family and
offers steps for reconciling with one's past. Neuharth intersperses
quotes from patients throughout the work, reading each perspective
with respect, empathy, and understanding....Neuharth follows through
in the last part of the tape with concrete, sound advice to move
toward gaining control over one's life."
#11, Amazon.com Audiobooks
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